Not feeling very sunny this morning.
R had to have blood drawn today from two different doctors' orders. Husband took her. Got a call from him that they only had one of the orders. something went wrong with the faxing. Now she is going to have to go get stuck again sometime soon. Waiting to hear back from the doctor's office.
R complained about the breakfast things I put out for her when she got back, all things she likes, but of course, not what she had in mind. We are out of her cereal. I scolded her for this pattern of often complaining about the foods that I provide. It is extremely annoying and I finally lost it. I have raised a spoiled griper when it comes to food. No wonder the idea of deciding what's for dinner each night can sometimes feel joyless. Ugh. This would be so much more "normal" if she were seven instead of thirty-seven.
In trying to imagine how a mentor would counsel me in this situation, I can only come up with: "Ann, you provide a variety of good nutritious and tasty foods for your family. R is certainly not wanting for nourishment. She has the chance to choose breakfast and lunch items usually, but she had to eat and take meds right away and you put out things she likes. She needs to be adaptable enough to accept that. As for dinner, she can eat it or leave it. You know what she likes and dislikes. You accommodate her as much as is reasonable, and at least once a week she gets to choose what she wants during a drive-through lunch outing. She needs to develop a little more flexibility and appreciation."
"Now, to help you - Morning walks in the summer are refreshing. Take the dog and get out for ten, fifteen or twenty minutes. Get outside before it gets hot. (Forecast is high of 106 today). Stay inside most of the rest of the day, with brief trips outdoors to do things like hang laundry, do a little light gardening, sit a few minutes in the sun, or several minutes in the shade. Have your to-do list but also do something you enjoy. Keep R on a healthy routine. After dinner, take her out for a short walk around the neighborhood, even if you have to 'drag her kicking and screaming', maybe around sunset. Remember she loves pretty sunsets and she cannot see them easily from inside the house."
Who can mentor me about the school situation? L moved into her new apartment and had us over last night. She is having fun settling in and I wanted to be excited for her. I am, but worried, very worried about her being on her school campus next month. It's not clear how this is going to be managed safely, this back-to-school process. She moved out of our house and into this apartment because she knew she might have to be on campus and she did not want to bring back sickness to us. She said that would cause her a great deal of anxiety and she wouldn't want to bear that. Ok, I said, ok.
Whenever I start to think about it too much I go a little mental. How is she going to teach safely? It would only take one exposure and it could be bad, very bad. I am so angry at the way it is being trivialized by some of our top leaders. Thank goodness our governor is tracking towards taking protective measures now. Needless to say I am ignoring everything the President says. It is too confusing trying to sift through the facts and the falsehoods. I waste less time and energy when I go to the experts for information I can trust.
Grocery orders will be arriving today, with lots of fresh fruits I hope. Time to get back on the anti-inflammatory track. Joints are complaining and eyes are dry. RA and Shogran, reacting to stress and diet.
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